What It Takes To EnCOURAGE Others

It has been almost a year since I wrote my last blog. 10 months to be exact and I am so “encouraged” to write my first entry for 2014 today. ☺

I read another blog this morning and I really have to share it with everybody else:

“From rape and tragedy to forgiveness and victory: the Joy Tan-Chi story”

Ms. Joy Tan-Chi Mendoza has been my inspiration since I attended a homeschooling seminar by HOMESCHOOL ASSOCIATION OF THE PHILIPPINE ISLANDS (HAPI) last May 2012 with my husband. I looked up to her since then because of how she talks about her faith, God’s faithfulness, marriage, motherhood, homeschooling and how important it is to train and teach a child about Jesus. Reading and learning about her rape story today has made me love her more as my inspiration on how I can grow stronger in my faith. If you are also inspired by her and want to follow her journey, you can follow her blog “Teach With Joy” and be fond of her as much as I do.

What I realized today is that God really uses different stories and lives to ENCOURAGE others in Faith, Hope and Love. In Ms. Joy’s story particularly, God made her an instrument to encourage those who were abused to see the goodness and faithfulness of God despite tragedies. The other side of this truth though is the difficulty or hardship of the person being used by God to experience an actual tragedy and be part of the story being written by Him to share with others later on. Can you imagine how much pain you need to undergo, accept and heal from to be able to inspire others effectively? Same with leadership, it is always better or more effective to lead others by example than by force or fear. That is maybe why God made sure that trials will be part of our lives so we can learn from them, rise from them and later on have the credibility to talk about the things we’ve learned because we’ve experienced them first hand. People who would be hearing about your story would be left with only one choice — listen… because the actual experience speaks louder than opinion or perspective. That is also why God gave up His one and only Son to live like us and die for us so He can set an example of what “sacrifice” and “unconditional love” truly means.

The Bible says a lot about encouraging each other but these two are my personal favorites:

Hebrews 10:23-25 (NLT)

23 Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. 24 Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. 25 And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.

Ephesians 4:29 (NLT)

29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

Encouraging others takes more than an actual experience or story though. It also takes COURAGE… Courage to tell and share your story no matter how painful it is and how deep it can bring you back to that pitch black hole you fell into when the story happened. I think no one would ever want to go back to a painful experience that almost cost his/her whole life. More than courage, encouraging others takes a lot of Faith, Hope and Love really. Faith is what will tell you that no matter what happened before, God has made a “new creation” in you and He can always make a “new life” out of you. This means that no matter how much pain and fear can sharing your story with others bring back, He can put the light back in a snap because He’s already healed you. Hope, on the other hand, is what will remind you of Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you… plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Love, as a last note, is what would keep you sharing your story with others who badly need to see God’s light and love. It is also the only thing that would remind you why you are accepted, healed and restored…

…so continue to share your stories, inspire others how you’re able to overcome trials and encourage others in growing their Faith, Hope and Love.


May God’s grace be with you always. ☺

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What it means to be a CHRISTIAN

Surrendering our lives to God is the most humble act we’ve done in our lives. It means losing ourselves completely and allowing God to take the wheel and lead our lives.

Being a Christian is all about humility. It visually means kneeling, bowing our heads at God’s feet and exploding our hearts out for God so He can enter our lives. Most people will find it hard to surrender something really important to God or anybody for that matter because of pride. Sometimes we can’t even surrender and let go of the things that are not meant to stay in our hearts.

We can mostly see what it means to be a Christian when difficult situations come into our lives. Most people are afraid of pain and misery so when things get hard, they run away. They don’t like the idea of pain teaching them a lesson because of pride. They think they don’t deserve pain at all. Most people are angry of pain and misery. So when things get worse, they scream and unconsciously allow pain to lead conversations that would make or break a person or a situation. I am also guilty of this particular example.

Being a Christian does not mean that we’re immune to pain and misery. It does not mean that we’re not allowed to have pain in our lives. In fact, being a Christian tend to be more difficult than just being human and live a self-centered life. I’m afraid most people really have a “perfect” perception on Christians around the world so they alienate them.

Being a Christian means accepting pain and misery when they come. When we surrender our lives to God, we recognize that everything is temporary including pain. Pain is temporary and God’s faithfulness is the only living truth we can hold on to. In a difficult situation, a Christian may cry but will not leave and run away. A Christian may cry but will not be angry and choose to be silent or choose his/her words. A Christian will accept pain, cry and allow it to remind him/her to completely surrender everything to God. A Christian will choose to build another person up and forget about his/her own welfare.

No matter how we try to look at difficult things, a true Christian will always choose God’s way than do things his/her own way. That’s what complete surrender means. That’s what being humble means. We don’t need perfect. We will never be perfect. We just have to know and recognize who’s leading our lives. Allow God to take the wheel… that’s how it means to be a Christian.

May God’s grace be with you always. ☺



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The Positive Side Of “I Can’t Take This Anymore”

I have come to know another important point of having to take things and live life one step or one day at a time.

Today, as I look at 2012 and how the year has gone with God’s presence, I just cried as I was thanking God for each and every thing that happened. If we truly follow Jesus and focus on where He leads us, we will never have to regret or feel sorry for anything at all. Most especially if we’re able to see that each trial or sacrifice was meant to glorify His name and lead other people to come to know Him as well.

As I was thanking God today, my heart was exploding like I won’t be able to take anymore blessing from above, feeling like, “Okay I think I’m so happy, I’m so blessed, I’m complete maybe I’m done” and “I can’t take this anymore.” It’s like feeling completely-tired-I-want-to-die kind of explosion in the heart when we get so challenged in life and difficulties get way ahead of us BUT feeling a more beautiful side of it… just the exact opposite or POSITIVE side of it.

And if I don’t know how to take things one step at a time, I might really end up dead tomorrow thinking I’ve had it all, every challenge and every blessing, when the truth is, God is just starting with me. ☺

These feeling of overflowing gratitude, having a completely surrendered life in Christ and unwavering faith or trust in God made me thinking that I AM EXACTLY WHERE I WANTED TO BE and I am so blessed to know and believe that if it’s not God answering my prayers that led me here, God had the same plans with my dreams. Maybe not exactly having the same path knowing how I get so stubborn at times but definitely the same ending in 2012. ☺

I maybe done but God is not yet done with me. Since He just started building a Godly family through my husband and I, I think 2013 and the years to come will bring us more than we actually thought and prayed for. The best part is knowing that we have God on our side.

May God’s grace be with you always,
MrsEGG ❤


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The Rightful Owner

God is the rightful owner of EVERYTHING.
“The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it.” ~ Psalm 24:1

Unless God has made or placed someone or something in your life that’s rightfully yours, in accordance to God’s law and governing law, nobody can claim someone or something as his or her own.

Even children were not supposed to be owned by parents. God is still the only one who owns them. God has chosen specific parents for specific children, for purposes that He alone knows.

Ideas, thoughts and opinions, unless copyrighted and published in accordance to governing laws in our world, cannot be claimed as owned. God has given us unique talents and creativity to think of wonderful things to share for His good purpose. Unless we use God’s gifts for His glory, anything can be taken away from us in a snap and be given to another person who God thinks understands better how to be a good steward.

Stealing, cheating or plagiarizing, unless something, someone or an idea or write-up is rightfully yours in accordance to governing laws and God’s law (which is the most powerful law above all), cannot be easily judged on anybody, most especially if another person is doing a better job or fulfilling God’s good purpose for mankind. Any action done related though to stealing, cheating or plagiarizing, without breaking governing laws, may subject to God and will be judged according to his or her honesty. Then let him or her be judged by the rightful owner and the one and only God, not by yourself, so you won’t find yourself being subjected also to God by passing judgement on others.

Owning is pride hiding inside our hearts. Unless we learn to accept humbly that we don’t own ANYTHING in this world, God as our rightful owner will have a hard time to entrust His gifts and treasures to us.

Stop owning. Stop judging. Remember that nobody is made perfect so if you don’t want to be judged and humiliated later on, start opening your hearts and intelligent minds. Start understanding. Start forgiving. Start to let go and love. Start giving. Start sharing. God is always watching so you better start now.


May God’s grace be with you,

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Serving, Sharing and Surfing ☺

This past week was the most humbling experience in our lives by far. Me and my husband were able to share our riches, not monetary, since we’ve been living on a budget after our wedding three (3) months ago, but our riches in time and talents.

Metro Manila has experienced another calamity the past week involving non-stop heavy rainfall resulting to flood. Floodwaters have covered so many places in the Philippines leaving a lot of people hungry, cold and homeless.

Last Tuesday, August 7, 2012, my husband and I wanted to just go out of our comfortable home, bring our surfboards and go to the flooded areas where rescue was desperately needed. We were watching the news the whole day and most of the reports they receive were “RESCUE NEEDED”. Rescue operation groups were running out of rescue boats and were already trying to borrow from private owners. This led us to offer our help by letting them know that we may not have rescue boats but we have surfboards that we can use to help save lives out there.

We felt that as surfers, who are used to waves, currents and wipe outs, can make use of our resources (surfboards) and physical training to save lives in the flood waters. We were willing and ready to go paddle out once we receive a call/message but we didn’t get any. Given that the calamity only caused landslide casualties, the rescue operation groups, given the lack of materials, were able to do their jobs well with courage, strength, faith, compassion and love. God is good.

Come Wednesday, August 8, 2012, with God calling us to serve and make use of our time and talents to help and encourage others, my husband took a leave from work and we volunteered for five (5) straight days in our church (CCF Makati) to pack and give out relief goods to flooded areas. We’re even privileged when asked to bring our surfboards with us just in case we would need them in giving out relief goods in hard to reach areas. So my husband and I went out of our way and followed God.

Bringing relief goods to CCF Taytay – 08.10.12 (Friday)

Bringing relief goods to CCF Taytay – 08.10.12 (Friday)

Bringing relief goods to Brgy. Pag-asa (Rizal) – 08.10.12 (Friday Night)

Bringing relief goods to Brgy. Pag-asa (Rizal) – 08.10.12 (Friday Night)

Bringing relief goods to Brgy. Pag-asa (Rizal) – 08.10.12 (Friday Night)

Bau, Mighty, LA & Eesai = Bringing relief goods to Brgy. Pag-asa (Rizal) – 08.10.12 (Friday Night)

Bringing relief goods to CCF Bulacan – 08.11.12 (Saturday)

Bringing relief goods to CCF Bulacan – 08.11.12 (Saturday)

From 1 dump truck to another – 1000 bags for families in Bulacan – 08.11.12 (Saturday)

From 1 dump truck to another – 1000 bags for families in Bulacan – 08.11.12 (Saturday)

From 1 dump truck to another – 1000 bags for families in Bulacan – 08.11.12 (Saturday)

08.08.12 – Wednesday – Giving out relief goods to Brgy. La Paz Makati – We met Vincent, Harris and Harold, kids who asked me what it (surfboard) was called (our surfboards being used to transport relief goods to their houses). God blessed us with talents that we’re able to teach them how to paddle with a surfboard in the flood and share the stoke. Unknowingly, they showed us how to be joyful in misfortune♥

08.09.12 (Thursday) – We went to Brgy. Bangkal to give out another batch of relief goods. I found myself sharing the gospel with handmade “rasta” bracelets to four (4) kids namely: Jon Jon, Bryan, Caleti and Lian, whose houses were also flooded by the calamity. God reminded them to always pray no matter how small or big the problem is because Jesus will never leave them. He already shared His blood for all of us so our sins can be forgiven. They were all smiling and repeating every phrase per color♥

Our last day of relief operation happened last Sunday with other surfers from Surfari Phils., headed by Jasper Enriquez. Jasper organized a relief operation for surfers who want to help out flood victims from the recent calamity.


Jasper was able to gather 200 bags from the RIDE ROCK RELIEF project which also aims to collect relief goods for calamity victims in the Philippines. Having heard from Pastor Danny of CCF Taytay that Rizal is the least supported flooded area since floodwaters normally last two (2) months to seven (7) months in hard to reach areas, we suggested to Jasper, if they haven’t found a flooded place to help out yet, maybe we can go to heavy flooded areas in Rizal with the help of CCF Taytay.

So it happened. Our Sunday Surfers group went to Villaluz St. Brgy. Kalayaan, Angono Rizal with Niko Baua and his crew from ABS-CBN to cover the relief operation. Niko is not just a reporter, but a diver, and recently got stoked in surfing when he tried it with Jasper’s group in Baler, Aurora.

August 12, 2012 was the most touching from all five (5) days of relief operation that my husband and I went to. I, personally cried when I saw Nanay‘s teary eyes (“Nanay” – in english, “Mother”) just right after giving her a bag relief goods. She’s about 65-70 years old and told me that she’s so blessed and thankful because that was the first time that they have received help and donation ever since the monsoon started. She said that they kept on listing their names but haven’t received any help. Her face is marked in me that whenever I think about her and remember her eyes and words, I can just cry. I told her that I will never forget Villaluz and that if ever (not hoping that another calamity would happen again though) there will be another misfortune event, I will remember and think first of Villaluz and their baranggay. My husband, LA, on the other hand met another Christian during our relief operation. When were down with just a few bags to give out, LA met Noel, a sick man who is undergoing dialysis at the moment and couldn’t go out of his flooded house and get the relief goods bag. So LA went up to his house and checked his status, gave the bag and prayed for him. That moment humbled him as well and he will never forget it. LA and I will always include them in our prayers.

Some pictures taken by Niko from the Sunday relief operation:

Nikolo Baua ‏@Nikobaua: “Surfers distributing relief goods in Rizal with their long boards. @surfunited #reliefPH”

Nikolo Baua ‏@Nikobaua: “I was skeptical at first, but the surfboards were pretty useful in giving out goods in the cramped neighborhoods.”

Nikolo Baua ‏@Nikobaua: “Some residents cant get the relief goods in the bgy hall bcoz of the floods. It had to be brougt to them. @SurfUnited”

Nikolo Baua ‏@Nikobaua: “Paddling & distributing aid in floods. 🏄 @surfunited #morefuninph”

Surfers brave floodwaters to deliver relief goods

The relief operation for surfers is only the beginning. Jasper also launched a campaign entitled, SURF UNITED, which aims to break or change the surfer stereotype into responsible surfers and welcomes other educated surfers in the Philippines who want to give back to the community and help other people by joining in the campaign, and the recent relief operation was just the start of it.

SurfUnited on Twitter

Surfing, more than the stoke, fun, and laid back lifestyle that it provides, is a celebration of God’s creation. You celebrate with the waves, but it also doesn’t stop there. The kind of stoke that surfing gives you makes you want to celebrate God’s gift of nature anytime and anywhere, as long as there is still creation to celebrate with. Who is responsible then to take good care of God’s creation and preserve God’s gift so we can continuously celebrate life with our loved ones and others? Let’s take a stand and make sure it’s the right one.

As for my husband and I, we will make the right choice, continue to take courage as we live a “shaka” lifestyle and will continue to serve the Lord.

May God be with you always,

But if you refuse to serve the Lord, then choose today whom you will serve. Would you prefer the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates? Or will it be the gods of the Amorites in whose land you now live? But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.” ~ Joshua 24:15 (NLT)

“for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill His good purpose.” ~ Philippians 2:13 (NIV)

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God’s Presence? Don’t Say It, Just LIVE It

Have you experienced listening or being involved in debates or conversations about the presence of God and His existence? How about bumping into a few stories or articles on books and magazines? I’m pretty sure most of us have but I wonder how you felt about it…

In our present time, we can’t force people to believe in God if they don’t feel or haven’t seen His presence at all, most especially those people who spent most of their time studying Science and are passionate in finding reasons or explanations in each and every thing that exists in our world. But there is one way though… living our lives the way we would explain how God exists.

When we’re able to get through difficult challenges in our lives and we know that there was no way we could have lived another day after experiencing a horrible and cruel situation in our lives, who could have saved us or enabled us to get up on our bed (or worse, get up on the floor) when there’s nobody there? Would you say Casper? Or an old friend in spirit visiting you in your dreams? I’d say God.

When we’re able to handle things better, differently, and with unconditional love flowing in our hearts even if tears kept running down from our eyes, and we know that that’s not how we used to be or how we used to handle things, who could have showed us or told us how? Would you say and claim it for yourselves? Would you thank and think of “the universe” and anything else that comes in your minds other than your heart and God?

When we see unwavering faith from a scared woman praying in the middle of a war in Middle East Asia, courage from a disabled man who lost both his feet but never gave up in his life, hope from the eyes of a hungry, malnourished and poor child begging for money or food in the streets, forgiveness from the heart of a mother who lost her son or daughter murdered by a mentally sick and lost man, kindness from a 12-year-old boy who helped an elderly person cross the street, trust from an untiring wife to her unfaithful husband, peace in the midst of a country flooded by a strong and wicked typhoon breathing out fallen houses, and lastly, unfailing love from a father to his son who mistreated him and threw him out of his house because he broke a computer or a television set for not knowing how to operate any of them, when we see these impossible things happening in front of us and unfolding from our eyes but somehow something or someone made them possible to exist, would you say they were just coincidences or fate? Would you think of “destiny” and any other thing you accept and believe except God? I would think, feel, say and believe that in each of these situations, there is the presence of God.

The presence or existence of God is living and active. He’s visible in the impossible things happening in our lives and in our world. Some people may not get tired of saying that they will not believe until they see and can touch God in front of them not realizing that God’s presence exists in the people around them who simply do not give up on them even if they make mistakes or aren’t perfect.

As other Christians say, debates about the presence of God may not be necessary if we live our lives the way we believe. That’s the only way we could show and share the existence of a savior because our saved lives serve as living proofs. Then let God Himself do the rest. ☺

Peace & Love always,

“With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” ~ Matthew 19:26

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Living On a Prayer

Living On a Prayer

“Opening our hearts & lives in prayer as husband and wife.”

I got this poem from “One Day At A Time” by Francis J. Kong.

I knelt to pray when day was done
And prayed, “O Lord, bless everyone,
Lift from each saddened heart the pain
And let the sick be well again.”

And then I woke another day
And carelessly went on my way,
The whole day long I did not try
To wipe a tear from any eye.

I did not try to share the load
Of any brother on the road.
I did not even go to see
The sick man just next door to me.
Yet once again when day was done
I prayed, “O Lord, bless everyone.”

But as I prayed, into my ear
there came a voice that whispered clear,
“Pause now, my son, before you pray.
Whom have you tried to bless today?
God’s sweetest blessing always go
by hands that serve Him here below.”

And then I hid my face and cried,
“Forgive me, God, I have not tried,
But let me live another day
and I will live the way I pray.”

May God be with you, always.

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Bamboo-ing in Life

Bamboo-ing in Life

“Be a Bamboo” on One Day At A Time by Francis J. Kong (Book 4; Pgs. 20-21)

Bamboo = RESILIENCE. (ability to bounce back)

re·sil·ience   [ri-zil-yuhns, -zil-ee-uhns] (from http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/resilience)
1. the power or ability to return to the original form, position, etc., after being bent, compressed, or stretched; elasticity.
2. ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyancy.

“We are hard-pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.” ♥
~ 2 Corinthians 4:8-9

“Therefore do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.” ♥
~ 2 Corinthians 4:16

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On R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

“Live as free people, but do not use your freedom as a cover-up for evil; live as God’s slaves. Show proper respect to everyone.” – 1 Peter 2:16-17a 

If JUSTICE is what LOVE looks like in public, according to Mr. Cornel West, I say RESPECT is what LOVE can be to other people, most especially, enemies or anybody who have hurt us for that matter. RESPECT is what anybody can use to replace ANGER in their hearts. 

I was reading a few pages today from “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian, a beautiful wedding gift from our Ninong Dodie & Ninang Lalaine Pereña, when I got stuck with the word “respect” and how I have been living my life with it for almost thirty years now. I have realized that just by choosing to be silent and NOT humiliate any person who have wronged us not only humbles us but shows great respect for others. I have quite a few experiences to share how this can be possible. 


Whether you’re thinking about your parents or other family members, or just an elderly person walking down the street or waiting for a bus ride at a terminal, what do you think respecting elders mean? Yeah I have shown respect to elders who were not related to me. I think that’s the easiest part. But what if the challenge for you is to show respect to your parents who choose not to give respect to their children? Does that give children the right to disrespect their parents? I have a lot of friends who have different difficult experiences with parents, including mine, and of course I can only share my experience. The thing is I am one of those people who have very dramatic childhood experiences with parents and only my closest friends (who respect my parents by the way) know the exact details. Yes, parents can hurt their children too. Whether they hurt them physically, mentally or emotionally, parents can cause a very deep hurt among their children. Maybe one of my experience that I can openly share with you is when I was in fourth year high school (secondary education). I was 15 or 16 years old then and was hardly working on a term paper that I needed to submit the next day when my parents were fighting behind me, throwing off things at each other, fax machine, telephone unit, and anything their hands were able to hold on to, while cursing each other with the most hurtful words you can think of to say to a partner. I was literally crying while I type my paper but kept my heart strong and was praying that I wouldn’t fail in my studies so I could get a job just in case my parents ended up killing each other and I will be the only one left to feed my younger siblings. Anybody who’s hurting tend to somehow think of just themselves, how they feel and not care about anything or anybody around them at that particular moment. I’ve had these moments. So did my parents. We can say that parents who choose to fight in front of their children is a form of disrespect, not thinking of the possible effect on the children, but will never be considered as enough reason for children to disrespect their parents. In my case, I chose to respect them as parents in these situations by being silent, while hurting and crying, only talked when asked, and only uttered the words “Mommy, Daddy, enough” while crying and looking after my younger siblings.

RESPECT FOR OTHERS (most especially for those who have wronged you)

In my whole life, I got involved in an actual fight twice, because I needed to defend loved ones who couldn’t fight for themselves. I was around 9 or 10 years old in the first one and kicked a boy on his groin area because he threatened my little brother that he’s going to hurt him. I stood up for my little brother right away. I was 12 years old when I’ve had my second and last actual fight with a 16-year old girl who was like a foot and a half bigger than me. It wasn’t really my fight but was my best friend’s fight. I was just with her when suddenly they were already fighting physically and saw the big girl punching my best friend on the head. I stood up for my friend, went in and tried to stop them when I found my hair being pulled by a big 16-year old girl. I tried to punch her but I couldn’t reach her face. I kept on thinking how I can stop her from all the crazy things so I just kept on pinching her chest, the only thing I could reach in front of me, hoping I could make her stop but didn’t. Fortunately, the fight got big enough to make a scandal in the whole neighborhood so our families came running to us and saved the day. This was the fight that made me swear I wouldn’t let myself get involved in another situation, that I can always do better with my good intentions. There was a girl who wanted to fight with me when I was I think in 2nd year high school because of envy but I chose to talk to her instead so we can have peace. We made peace but we never became friends. I grew up with this mindset to keep peace as much as I can no matter how other people try to hurt or ruin me with their backstabbing words and deeds. I can choose to respect them even if they don’t respect me. As I grew older and live a life in the corporate world, I realized that there are more judgmental people, who wouldn’t blink an eye when they backstab you or ruin you and hurt you so they can get you out of their way and bring you down. They call this crab mentality. I’ve met different kinds already from one company to another and I know that wherever I go, I would meet another kind. I always try to humble myself and not fight back as much as I can. For whatever reason, no matter how I want to keep peace and not pick a fight, I guess there are people who wouldn’t stop until they see you completely out of their way. My close colleagues from previous companies who know me well and know the truth have told me the same things, fight back or at least defend myself. I chose RESPECT. At least by not saying anything bad about the other person to other people, no matter how hurt I am, would show respect. And knowing that I am not perfect and also bound for limitations and weaknesses, I leave, at least before I lose all of my patience and peace that I’ve been trying to build all my life. I always tell myself that the enemy can always try to hurt me and bring me down but the peace that I get from showing respect instead of anger and leaving or running away from evil temptations cannot be taken away from me. I later on realized when I became a Christian that the peace in me was God’s voice telling me how I should live this life His way and no other way. Respect has become my form of forgiveness.


Given that we’re not perfect, we’re bound to hurt others as well no matter how much we try not to. We may or may not know it, or we were doing it for immature or mature reasons that we couldn’t comprehend until the actual issue is already in front of us waiting to be ignited or has already exploded. Now I must repeat that anybody who’s hurting tend to somehow think of just themselves, how they feel and not care about anything or anybody around them at that particular moment. I’ve had these moments. So did other people that I’ve hurt. One other thing that I chose to do aside from pray and ask forgiveness is that I also chose to give respect. Letting them be and allowing them to get hurt without defending or justifying your actions while you ask for forgiveness, whether they choose to give it now or later, show great respect for others. Even if the people that you’ve hurt chose to destroy you after and have their revenge by ruining you publicly, whether they’re telling the truth or not, they’re hurt. They will try to explain why and how much they’re hurt and shout to the world that they don’t deserve any of it, even if you’re getting hurt in the process and the person you’ve hurt have unnoticeably turned the situation upside down, respect is something you can still give after praying and asking for forgiveness, just by being silent and still, keeping your peace.    

RESPECT FOR LOVED ONES (Disclaimer: I asked my husband to review my blog and asked for his permission first before I posted this blog. Respect. ♥)

Maybe some of you will notice why I separated the parts where you give respect for others and respect for loved ones. I felt that I needed to separate the “others” who are considered not as close to our hearts as our “loved ones”. Based on observations, I realized that most of the time, it is harder for people to give respect back to our loved ones who have hurt or wronged us. Simply because the damage is greater and deeper. But this doesn’t change the need to still give respect, most especially to our loved ones who need respect from us the most. Me and my husband have been thru a lot of difficulties already, from the time that we started our relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend, engagement stage and until we got married. Maybe our experiences were not as many as those who have been together for 10 or 25 years now but I’m sure they’re considered difficult. The thing is no matter how much my husband has hurt me in the past, or hurt me now and maybe in the future, respect is still something that I can choose to give to my husband no matter how hurt I am or how much hurt I get. Showing respect for my husband can be as simple as not humiliating him in front of other people, by keeping our fights within ourselves, the two of us, and not involving others as much as possible. There were times that we got friends involved but those were his choices. After a while he learned that our fights and disagreements must remain within our walls. He learned to keep that. I respect my husband in such a way that his imperfections need not to be heard or seen by others, most especially if there are already people who misjudged him in the past and ruined him by talking about his mistakes publicly and make fun of him. A man’s self-esteem, once tramped deeply and crushed his heart, do not need to be crumpled all over again especially if he already knows his mistakes. I respect my husband, the love of my life, in such a way that I will not let the enemy use me and my words to destroy him in front of others. I can get hurt and cry in front of him really hard and tell him how much he’s hurt me but I will never cry in front of other people about my husband and rant about his mistakes and how he’s hurt me. I respect and love him enough to not give other people a reason to judge him and see him any other way than how God made me see him thru His eyes.

There may be times before that I was able to share our stories and issues with our closest friends but not because of “vengeful” or “anger” intentions. But because we’re blessed with caring friends whom God used to get in the way to help us, love us enough to initiate communication with us in a way that we can both share trustfully and share issues that we won’t be able to fix on our own. These friends who will love you no matter how imperfect you are and who will not judge you no matter how many times you fail, I consider faces and hands of God in the midst of our challenges.

Any living thing in the world, from animals to environment, men and women, aside from Otis Redding and Aretha Franklin, wants and deserves RESPECT, as much as how God loves us.

RESPECT IS WHAT LOVE CAN BE WHEN YOU’RE WEAK AND HURT. If we can’t love everybody as much as how God loves us because we’re hurt, we can choose to give respect instead, and love later on unnoticeably. ♥

“God will bring to judgement both the righteous and the wicked, for there will be a time for every activity, a time for every deed.” ~ Ecclesiastes 3:17, NIV

“Fear God and keep His commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. For God will bring every deed into judgement, including every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil.” ~ Ecclesiastes 12:13b-14, NIV

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